Ways to Strengthen the Husband-Wife Relationship in Islam
According to the Holy Quran, the purpose of marriage is to attain tranquility and peace with mutual love, affection, caring, and sharing. Although nowadays many Muslims be in failing marriages and on a fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences. The reason behind this drastic situation is many Muslim husbands and wives treat each other as rivals rather than life partners. Marriage is an act that is most liked by Allah Almighty. Allah described marriage in the Holy Quran in these words: “He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts)” (Quran, 30:21)
Ways to strengthen Husband-Wife Relationship
Below mentioned are the following things that Muslim husband & wife can follow in order to strengthen their relationship.
Good Attitude
A Muslim must and always have a positive attitude towards his or her life. Say “Alhamdulillah” for whatever Allah Almighty gives us. Muslim couples should accept each other completely. Forgive and forget the shortcomings of each other. In this way, you can live a happy life ahead.
Express Love through Gratitude
Love and mercy should be the trademark of any solid marriage and relationship. Express your gratitude through acts of consideration, doing something thoughtful or by something meaningful for your partner. In the Holy Quran, Almighty Allah says: “And of His signs is that He has created spouses for yourselves from your own selves so you might take comfort in them and He has created love and mercy among both of you. In this, there is evidence (of the truth) for the people who (carefully) think.”(Quran, 30:21)
Be Partners in the Decision-Making Process
Muslim couples should make decisions as a family. There will be much more harmony in the family when decisions are not imposed and everyone feels that they had some part in making them. It is good for making a strong relationship.
Be Thoughtful and Kind
There are rights and responsibilities that exist between Muslim couples. A man must take the responsibility as a provider, but equally, a woman needs to take the responsibility of home and protect the home from any presence that may threaten it. The aspect of understanding is that there are rights and responsibilities that exist between men and women. Love and successful marriage are defined by kindness and acts of giving between a husband and wife in Islam.
Love Each Other for the Sake of Almighty Allah
Make the love and obedience of Allah (SWT) the basis and focus of your relationship with someone else. Love someone so much that you want your love for them to last beyond this life and into the Hereafter, where you can live in eternal happiness with them having earned Allah’s pleasure together. It means you love someone solely because of how much they remind you of Allah Almighty and help you get closer to Him. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) stated: “Nothing is placed on the Scale that is heavier than good character. Indeed, the person with good character will have attained the rank of the person of fasting and prayer.” (Tirmidhi)
Communicate with each other
As husband and wife in Islam, you should always speak about how you feel and don’t just express displeasure but also speak of your joys and successes which is a very strong aspect of healthy relationships. There has to be a safe space between couples that allow for those feelings to surface. Make sure conversations are constructive, rather than destructive. Speak from a place of building rather than breaking down.
Be Positive and Spontaneous
Marriage thrives under positive action. Love, kindness, care, and consideration to the marriage will all amount to a healthy dose of energy towards building a better bond or strong relationship. Speak to your spouse in the quiet times about acts of spontaneity that would add value to their lives.
Remember the Good Times and Show Affection
Speak about your good times and joys, talk about those things that make you both laughs, highlight each other’s positive attributes and qualities. It is in this manner that you give your marriage a strong foundation to stand upon. Show affection for your life partner. Be kind, gentle, and loving towards each other.
